Episode 5

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Published on:

26th Jun 2025

There is no Plan B

Stop Being a Human Doing and Start Being a Human Being

Tired of chasing your tail with endless backup plans that never pan out? Michelle delivers a truth bomb about why you're stuck in survival mode and how Generation X got addicted to trauma without even realizing it.

This episode cuts through the noise about stepping out of your comfort zone and gets real about stepping back into your power. Michelle breaks down why we sabotage ourselves the moment things start feeling good and how to break the cycle.

Key Takeaways

Plan A was always the plan - Stop wasting energy on Plan B scenarios that keep you in fear mode

Generation X survival programming - Recognize how growing up analog-to-digital created a generation of survivors stuck in trauma loops

The self-sabotage pattern - Why we destroy good things when they don't feel "safe" to our nervous system

Being vs. doing shift - How to pause the hamster wheel and remember who you actually are

Your genius is already there - The gifts that come naturally to you are exactly what the world needs

Timestamps

0:00 Human being vs. human doing

2:30 Generation X and survival mode

5:45 Why we self-sabotage when things get good

8:30 Stepping back into your power

10:00 Remember your magnificence

Michelle's Raw Truth Moment

"The second we start becoming who we're supposed to become and who we're meant to be, we fuck it up. Because in our minds it's, 'well, this isn't what I'm supposed to be doing.' Yeah, it feels weird because it's out of your damn comfort zone."

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Hot Mess Magic
For people who know exactly what they need to do but keep finding reasons not to.
The podcast for people tired of being told to heal, optimize, and “do the work” when the real work is admitting what you already know but refuse to act on.

Hosted by Michelle Burke, keynote speaker and author who doesn’t inspire people to feel better. She exposes what high-performers hide behind: self-awareness replacing action, resilience enabling tolerance, and growth as another way to avoid deciding.

If you’ve ever thought, “I know exactly what I need to do, so why am I not doing it?” this is the conversation.

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