Episode 5

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26th Jun 2025

There is no Plan B

Stop Being a Human Doing and Start Being a Human Being

Tired of chasing your tail with endless backup plans that never pan out? Michelle delivers a truth bomb about why you're stuck in survival mode and how Generation X got addicted to trauma without even realizing it.

This episode cuts through the noise about stepping out of your comfort zone and gets real about stepping back into your power. Michelle breaks down why we sabotage ourselves the moment things start feeling good and how to break the cycle.

Key Takeaways

• Plan A was always the plan - Stop wasting energy on Plan B scenarios that keep you in fear mode

• Generation X survival programming - Recognize how growing up analog-to-digital created a generation of survivors stuck in trauma loops

• The self-sabotage pattern - Why we destroy good things when they don't feel "safe" to our nervous system

• Being vs. doing shift - How to pause the hamster wheel and remember who you actually are

• Your genius is already there - The gifts that come naturally to you are exactly what the world needs

Timestamps

0:00 Human being vs. human doing

2:30 Generation X and survival mode

5:45 Why we self-sabotage when things get good

8:30 Stepping back into your power

10:00 Remember your magnificence

Michelle's Raw Truth Moment

"The second we start becoming who we're supposed to become and who we're meant to be, we fuck it up. Because in our minds it's, 'well, this isn't what I'm supposed to be doing.' Yeah, it feels weird because it's out of your damn comfort zone."

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Hot Mess Magic
Raw, honest conversations for anyone done pretending. Drop the facade. Own your mess. Discover the magic in being human.
Hot Mess Magic is the podcast for anyone ready to stop pretending they have it all together.

Because here's the truth nobody's saying: We're all a mess. Every single one of us. The difference is most people are hiding it, performing it away, spiritually bypassing it, or pretending their way through life.

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